Preventing Meltdowns During Challenging Times

When life throws unexpected challenges—like a power outage—at your family, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed. For families of children with autism, these moments can be especially tough, as disruptions in routine and environment often lead to increased anxiety and potential meltdowns.

You might wonder how to handle behavior challenges without reinforcing problem behavior or “giving in.” Here’s the truth: during a power outage or other challenging times, the focus should be on preventing meltdowns, not worrying about long-term habits.

🌟 Setting Your Child Up for Success

Ask yourself:

• “What would it take for my child to feel like they’re at Disney Land at home?”

• “What would help my child have ZERO meltdowns today?”

Your first reaction might be, “But that’s crazy! I can’t let them have all their favorite toys—they’ll make a mess, and they’ll regress!” It’s a valid concern, but here’s the reality: meltdowns don’t teach anything. They don’t help your child build resilience or independence—they only add stress to an already difficult situation.

Instead, focus on stacking reinforcement—creating an environment that proactively meets your child’s needs and keeps them engaged.

🚂 The Strategy: Stacking Reinforcement

🔹 Pull out multiple favorite toys:
Don’t just bring out one or two favorites—offer a variety. Bubble toys, their entire train set, sensory bins, or all the Legos in the house. The goal is to keep your child entertained and engaged.

🔹 Create engaging spaces:
Yes, this may mean scattering toys or activities around the house. Let go of concerns about messiness for now—this is about keeping your child regulated and calm.

🔹 Offer choices:
Give your child options, like choosing between two toys or activities. Offering choices gives them a sense of control in an uncertain time.

🔹 Adjust expectations:
Now isn’t the time to enforce strict rules about tidiness or limited screen time. Focus on maintaining peace and preventing meltdowns. Once things are back to normal, you can reset routines and boundaries.

💡 Why This Matters

It’s natural to worry about “reinforcing problem behavior” by giving your child too much of what they want. But here’s the key: meltdowns don’t teach skills. A meltdown during a power outage won’t teach resilience—it will only add to your frustration and your child’s stress.

By proactively meeting your child’s needs with their favorite toys, activities, and sensory items, you’re setting them up for success. This approach isn’t about spoiling or regressing; it’s about creating a safe, calm space during a challenging situation.

💙 Remember, You’re Not Alone

Challenging moments like power outages can feel isolating, but you’re not alone. If you need additional support or guidance, reach out to your BCBA or our team. We’re here to help you navigate tough times with strategies that work for your family.

You’ve got this—one day, one moment at a time. 🌟